clear message

18 Oct 2012

How do we know the msg delivered is clear and precise? reaching the targeted focus? what kind of msg consider proved as clear msg? If we believe we had done deliver the clear msg, doesn't it better to check with the receiver the actual msg they got from us? But what if they decline to clarify? I don know next step to know does he/she really get my meaning? Why so hard to make someone to get the msg right..? is that my fault? Hard to say I am good in delivering msg but I believe I aldy mention clearly what am telling and as adult, they should understand. Am not using flowery words, extreme hard words,  forceful letters.. Am just using simple languages. 

If he/she receive the msg, he/she should respond back either ACCEPT or DECLINE. This especially important if we deal with a deal. but when he/she does not give any feedback, how to proceed? to go by ur own decision actually differ from yr intention at the beginning in delivering the msg. If no respond to clarify the msg, what shall do? Repeatedly transmit the msg to him/her? Is that be better? but if he/she really planning not to answering the msg intention, does everything will work out well? I really don know.

I just wish for an answer. Either ACCEPT, DECLINE, REJECT, IN CONSIDERATION, YES/NO, etc.. any respond given is better than none. Better than don't know what next route should be take, don know why the msg failed to reach the receiver, don know either should wait and see afterward respond should be taken..

Am sending in clear msg. To approve my saying, a simple respond is more than enough. A reply is better than let-out hanging. No clear destination, the msg intention going no where. Nothing will be proceeded. Answering the clear msg is always better than ignoring the msg. At least, people will know what to expect, what to wait and what to assume.

anger management

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it might hard to control, especially anger. people may just angrily speaking or hardly to control tone of speaking. Actually even it may be minor case, but with bulky of anger in heart, u just couldn't control well. no one is perfect with good anger control. when that's yr bad day, u will not give face at all. even that might be yr spouse, siblings, friends or even close ones. Only way u can do is CONTROL. if u can't, means u really cannot bear the anger any more  No one have the power to say, "Stop. Think. Rethink. and Peace". NEVER. The anger comes from you so it must be end by you. If u cant, those suffer not only you but also those "staying" nearby with you.

Major case:

There's a man returning home in sweaty body. Plan to take bath and get good sleep. But once out from bathroom, find no single pants in drawer, put up the angry face and *&%#@% words blaming "why this stupid things happen"? "wtf hpn to me, at this moment/ now?". What bad is? these %&@$#%& foul words uttered to his wife whom tiredly sleeping. Why? Is that means " you tend to believe her job not tiring?" or " you expect that's her job to get all pants in tidy in cupboard?". NAIVE!! If u really don have anything to wear, just ask nicely. Don shout although u angry. If u know she were sleeping, why shout to blame?

End of case: leaving the house with angry mood with dirty pants and posted angry motion messages to everyone. Things he expect, people will say, "what's happen?".. wishing people to ask and comfort. But in yr heart, still blaming. Keep the case deep down in memory and repeatable the case when the next meeting.  

Control the anger, things might get easy in hand. But seems you don corporate much in this case. You put the blame solely to the wife for not provide enough. Not every man should behave such to woman to show their power. Ask nicely, talk slowly. Everything easy to do. Why makes things so difficult? making everyone affected so painful? leaving the scar that you have the right to ask this and that and we as woman only can say, "YES, SIR. I WILL PROVIDE. YES, SIR. I WILL DO IT NOW. YES, SIR. YOU ARE RIGHT. YES, SIR. THIS MY MISTAKE. PLEASE FORGIVE ME." 

Stupido. Anger is yr personal feeling. If u believe you can control, just control it. Don getting use to do it often. You might not hurt only to others, but also yr own self. 

Breach

Suddenly feels like want writing tonite about this topic. I don have correct exact definition on this but upon my belief, breach happens when you break the law of agreement between two parties and more either on agreed details or anythg related with the process of the collaboration.

breach can happen in many form. Whether how heavy the breach results is, both side may suffer the similar impact. but of coz the one being breached suffered more. You may not knowing the "heaviest" burden they might bear upon the breach takes place, but should aware if u just lest the ass out the matter, the loss all bear upon them. The suffer impacted more than on agreement but also relationship and future collaboration.

In daily life, breach can also happen between simple promise made between two people or more on something and you break the promise (didn't do what had promised), being breached side will sad, fall anger, and deduct the mark of trust within the other side. When u fail to get the trust, next agreement/promise wont come easy to accomplish. Neither to say when u ask other things related with such similar promise.

My confession:
I'd hide the real matter between two person which Im stuck in the middle. As due to my own fault, I don dare to admit it then tells lies to other party but half of them are real case. Am doubting the seriousness of the matter as well as the angry face of the person if found out I hid these matter from them. I had to confess, I had breach the trust one party put unto me and the trust another half.

Almost coming to two months but I still keep mumbling the real issue and keep giving reason which partially true but I don want they found out and blamed not do so at the very beginning.

Maybank - Legoland Malaysia Bloggers Contest

Why Maybank should give me tickets to Legoland" (in less than 500 words).

Legoland leading in front, small kid hiding at the back. Back years when my sister and I was small kid aged 6-7 years old, Lego is smaller size than we are. Lego is the best educational tools for us to construct, build and rebuilt, to create creative buildings together plus enjoying the process of learning the morale of patience, trust and co-operation. In the Lego world by ourselves, combine and regenerate different pieces into new item such like long train, shot gun, big house, palace, twin tower or even a ship already such big satisfaction. What more to say if these small material generated like real things at Legoland!

                                           multiple color of Lego used to build this shot gun:)

                                     Wish can see this cruise ship no longer in model size at Legoland.

                                         small tiny little red house

                                      long train should able accommodate us for ride in Legoland!

Now, when I knew Legoland is here in Malaysia, I would like to get the ticket to witness them myself with beasties especially my young sister the greatness of builders that transform their passion, dedication, hard work, time and faith to build these amazing icon into huge Lego world. My nephew might still small age by now but I wish to bring him to here together to witness the greatest experience with Legoland not only filled with entertainment, education but also proud with Malaysian people creativity. 

Coming vacay to KK/Sabah 2012

This time is crucial. two days ahead then time to hook up the plane..take me and group of young people to KK for vacation. Sounds funny as am the oldest. Am the "weirdest" as the only person doesn't know all the youngster groups members. Am the "no connection" with all these people included in the trip except my own sister that joining too. Mayb I can say,"Im more like joining a tour to Sabah. and just coincidence my sister also joining with her friends. So, just enjoy yr own. Who cares you don know them? Plus slowly u need get involve too, talked, shared place, doing things together. No big deal. Only getting own heart to fully-hearted be participate and enjoy. Nice sound as saying but still at the corner of heart, what if am not friendly enough?

Well said, all planning had be done. Although does not be as what had under planning at the very beginning, still hoping for the best out of it. If one cannot convince others that will be alright, others also will feel not secure. No matter call is as "traveler trip" or "tour trip", its still something that I had paid and I should just participate in it. Money not comes easy. From the date I fork out the money to join this vacation and need more for transportation. Think I should bring more own food to fix my stomach and less buying u-necessary goods. Better sight-seeing as I once being there time Form Five, few years had passed..all things could changed, plus this time heading location,I never been there ever.

Well, packing yet. on cloth, necessities, towel, even T-shirts not much I had. Sigh* So hard to think as I'm very cerewet in clothing especially high priced tagged. Well hoping everything be good. Less argument, less quarrel, less disagreement, less mouth-fighting and more harmonious. Everyone go safe back safe. No worries, only happiness.

Time to End soon

20/5/2012

without realize, almost two month gotta passed.. calculating days I've been take the course at SEGi, two more days will be the  final stop. can say its fast, can say "I DON KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT".  Its very true when people say, "u cannot just keep on studying without finding jobs".. Hard to admit but it's true enough to understand especially someone that trying to hide from reality. what i learned from this class, "when you're not knowing how to do the paperwork, u will read more to find answer. When u feel u want just give up the course in the middle, then u will think about the allowance provided" but then think back plus calculation roughly on monies spent on transport and food, that RM500 per month really not enough especially it doesn't in the account in time. with less monies in hand, i really so worried. as big spender like me on Gamble, so hard to reduce the bet.

days to find its end, i little UN-willing, might be with frens i made in the class, might be days i spent within SEGi environment,  might be also I'll be wondering where's my next path. Sigh* so hard..but foremost, i shall thanked few people in my class at here:

Rachel, you're Awesome! Every lift you spare to me, I never repay you back. Never attempt to express my thankfulness for sending me right to my doorstep. I only say "Thank you very much".. I really do appreciate your good self for sending stranger for 2 months like me in your car and humbly apologize about your messy car. You will be blessed for every good deeds you done to me!

Mariana, you're Fabulous! I don know why I feel you're so cool from the first day we met as you're late joining our session. But been matched with you in a group of three before another guy is dropped out from the class, that's really cool. Your act like Big Sista. Taking in-charge most of decisions where I know that's my weaknesses. I am too dependent on you but it's because you have the style in instructing people and i believe you will make big changes in your coming career with mass comm. All the best ahead, sis! God bless your deeds for giving lift to me too!

Amy, you're Style! You're talked to me  and befriended before Mariana came in. Its nice to have a friend like you, young and energetic although our distance just two years. but you got the personality of professionalism. Maybe you have great experience at work, you know how most people behave. I never forget for your help sending me home although far inside like what good deeds Mariana, Rachel and Rita gave me. Wishing you all the best in life!

Rita, you're Cute! First day of class, you alrdy willing to send me down from SEGi. Friendly to describe you coz hardly to believe you don have any worries picking up stranger get into your car as we're yet knowing well each other that time. Still, got many times I hop in your car even just a little distance from home. But, its still very nice. All good deeds fall upon you always!

Rooney, Mami and Irene, won't say much on this special group coz they're full of laughter group combination. Though at first day wont have such flash what happen today will just happen. Thanks to you all! Go nail the Job!

Theresa, Lucy and Steph, you' all so rock! Funny yet entertaining. No boundaries between us which I know from start although not so closed yet. 

Perfectionist Awang, you're such a sincere yet Hated! because of your clever mind, knowledgeable and outspoken steal all the limelight in the class after third days of the class began. It's rather to say you are smarter than us, you just get all the praises. It's not we are jealous over your outspoken, but we also wishing can be like you, so confident and knowing what you says. But, thank you for marking my resumes. All this awhile thought you're such arrogant person but you're nice. Congratulations on your Graduation and the treat you gave to all of us. Thank you!

Marcel, Aziz no idea describe you two.. but both are so "creative" and "attentive". All I wish is " all have great path ahead after this although life may be hard and difficult to walk through unemployed post, but you all can made it!

Last to Ms DD. Thank you for all the knowledge you shared although few portion is contribute by Mr. Perfectionist yet still helpful in knowing our needs as stranger to all assignments.

THANK YOU EVERYBODY!

Jobless Season

09/02/2012

This new season is my jobless since Oct 2011 (if want to be count clearly) should be alrdy 4 months am a jobless graduate. Jobs? I did looking for it, but chance not yet drop by. Opportunity yet open up for me. My sis say, try everythg. Now my mind emptied. How can everythng had typed gone in a click? maybe i forget that Gmail is collaborate with Blogger. Thats y when i log off gmail,all typed in blog tarnished, error.

Well,say no more. I alrdy no idea of what am writing. My fault not saving it first. Job Hunting, Job Hunger best describe me now. Eager for job to pay off debts. Owed so much to certain people inc computer am using now. So bad. even RM195 also couldn't pay every month. No salary in is very much contra in life like"no money in pocket, no mind in brain, no rice in bowl even no breath in life". Dead corpse.

Oh God, grant me a post. a job. a salaried occupation. So that my life not bored with jobless title. Change my attitudes with working life. Mindset of educated person though I dont have experience needed. Some is I don't have the ability to shows what i've learned and not able to prove what i learned is usable in real world.

Help me get rid this Jobless Title into Employed Worker. My Job Hunting and Job Hunger need to off from main thing in life. But this season still my biggest Jobless Season.

29/09/12

Am still carry on the Jobless Title till now. Not very much prefer that title although may no need suffer what the Employed Person did nowadays. The job list all can fit requirement but certain basic regulation, hard to accomplish.  referring to above post, entering month of October 2012 will I declared that I HAD NO JOB FOR 1 YEAR already. This is hardest part to live on. Sending out resumes and application but no responses yet. Sudden time feels if no work then the booked ticket for vacay not be wasted.  I am attached to any  course with 3 days max absent requirement, everything seems hard.

Happy New Year 2012

1st Jan 2012

People will think of new resolutions and recall any previous resolutions not achieved. Probably will write off new or just add on spices to the prev ones. Well,its just paper and pen things. If u reli can make it,don't think u need any prove to remind you on yr resolutions.

Mine,i forgot from the beginning of 1st Jan 2011.. wat happen? i already hardly to re flash or recall back. what i remember i still having class just then and now i finish and jobless. Resolution of course wish to find new job.

Finally got attend 1 interview. my sole and only. but the informal make it not special. Thought they may offer handsome salary as i got higher qualification,but so disappointing with low remuneration which lower even for my degree. So,its not a good idea to consider although i prefer such working conditions. Haih.. so down that time.

Life goes on. Still need stay with current position. same boss, same work, same place, no collegue, no freedom, no pay (sometimes).. Why no one give me chance? I hope the bad words didn't strike me--as within 5 years will not found single job. Thats bad. I don like it.

Anyway,Happy New Year 2012 to olls' out there.