clear message

18 Oct 2012

How do we know the msg delivered is clear and precise? reaching the targeted focus? what kind of msg consider proved as clear msg? If we believe we had done deliver the clear msg, doesn't it better to check with the receiver the actual msg they got from us? But what if they decline to clarify? I don know next step to know does he/she really get my meaning? Why so hard to make someone to get the msg right..? is that my fault? Hard to say I am good in delivering msg but I believe I aldy mention clearly what am telling and as adult, they should understand. Am not using flowery words, extreme hard words,  forceful letters.. Am just using simple languages. 

If he/she receive the msg, he/she should respond back either ACCEPT or DECLINE. This especially important if we deal with a deal. but when he/she does not give any feedback, how to proceed? to go by ur own decision actually differ from yr intention at the beginning in delivering the msg. If no respond to clarify the msg, what shall do? Repeatedly transmit the msg to him/her? Is that be better? but if he/she really planning not to answering the msg intention, does everything will work out well? I really don know.

I just wish for an answer. Either ACCEPT, DECLINE, REJECT, IN CONSIDERATION, YES/NO, etc.. any respond given is better than none. Better than don't know what next route should be take, don know why the msg failed to reach the receiver, don know either should wait and see afterward respond should be taken..

Am sending in clear msg. To approve my saying, a simple respond is more than enough. A reply is better than let-out hanging. No clear destination, the msg intention going no where. Nothing will be proceeded. Answering the clear msg is always better than ignoring the msg. At least, people will know what to expect, what to wait and what to assume.

anger management

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it might hard to control, especially anger. people may just angrily speaking or hardly to control tone of speaking. Actually even it may be minor case, but with bulky of anger in heart, u just couldn't control well. no one is perfect with good anger control. when that's yr bad day, u will not give face at all. even that might be yr spouse, siblings, friends or even close ones. Only way u can do is CONTROL. if u can't, means u really cannot bear the anger any more  No one have the power to say, "Stop. Think. Rethink. and Peace". NEVER. The anger comes from you so it must be end by you. If u cant, those suffer not only you but also those "staying" nearby with you.

Major case:

There's a man returning home in sweaty body. Plan to take bath and get good sleep. But once out from bathroom, find no single pants in drawer, put up the angry face and *&%#@% words blaming "why this stupid things happen"? "wtf hpn to me, at this moment/ now?". What bad is? these %&@$#%& foul words uttered to his wife whom tiredly sleeping. Why? Is that means " you tend to believe her job not tiring?" or " you expect that's her job to get all pants in tidy in cupboard?". NAIVE!! If u really don have anything to wear, just ask nicely. Don shout although u angry. If u know she were sleeping, why shout to blame?

End of case: leaving the house with angry mood with dirty pants and posted angry motion messages to everyone. Things he expect, people will say, "what's happen?".. wishing people to ask and comfort. But in yr heart, still blaming. Keep the case deep down in memory and repeatable the case when the next meeting.  

Control the anger, things might get easy in hand. But seems you don corporate much in this case. You put the blame solely to the wife for not provide enough. Not every man should behave such to woman to show their power. Ask nicely, talk slowly. Everything easy to do. Why makes things so difficult? making everyone affected so painful? leaving the scar that you have the right to ask this and that and we as woman only can say, "YES, SIR. I WILL PROVIDE. YES, SIR. I WILL DO IT NOW. YES, SIR. YOU ARE RIGHT. YES, SIR. THIS MY MISTAKE. PLEASE FORGIVE ME." 

Stupido. Anger is yr personal feeling. If u believe you can control, just control it. Don getting use to do it often. You might not hurt only to others, but also yr own self.